Building Your Parenting Village: In-Person and Online

As amazing as parenthood it's no secret that it comes with its fair share of challenges. That's where having a supportive group of people really helps; I’m sure you’ve heard the saying “it takes a village to raise a child” but it also takes a village to be a parent. Let's dive into why having a parenting village is crucial and explore how you can build one—both in-person and online.

Why a Parenting Village Matters

Being a parent is a 24/7 job. It's a rollercoaster ride filled with highs and lows. Having a village behind you can make all the difference. Here's why:

1. Shared Wisdom: No one knows the ins and outs of parenting like fellow parents. Having a village means having access to a wealth of experience, advice, and tips that can ease your journey.

2. Emotional Support: Parenting can be overwhelming, and it's okay to need a shoulder to lean on. Your village provides that safe space where you can vent, share your worries, and receive encouragement.

3. Breaks and Me-Time: Let's face it—parents need breaks! A village can step in to give you a breather while you recharge and take care of yourself. This part of your village can be sourced out and paid for or family can fill that space. 

4. Celebrating Together: Parenthood is full of milestones. Your village is there to cheer you on when your little one takes their first steps or says their first word.

Building Your In-Person Village

1.  Reach Out to Friends and Family: Don't be afraid to ask for help. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, and close friends can be part of your in-person village
2.  Attend Parenting Groups: Look for local parenting groups or playdates in your community. These gatherings are perfect opportunities to connect with other parents. This is where I met so many of the parents I still have in my life to this day. These women have been there for me for some of my hardest times of my life and we continue to be each other biggest cheerleaders and confidants. 
3.  Join Classes: Enrol your child in classes or activities. AFTER THE 4TH TRIMESTER AKA THE FIRST 40 DAYS AFTER POSTPARTUM.  It's a chance to meet other parents who share your interests. Sometimes these parents can be in your life for a long time if your child continues into a sport or activity. 
4.  Neighbourhood Connections: Get to know your neighbours. Sometimes, your village is just around the corner. I’ve met so many families at our local park and continued to hang with them over the years! 

Building Your Online Village

1. Parenting Forums and Groups: There are numerous online platforms dedicated to parenting discussions. Join forums or Facebook groups where you can ask questions and share experiences, the local parenting group is always helpful in being in the know of what is happening. I’ve gotten answers to almost all of my parenting questions from my local facebook mommy group. Just don’t forget to press mute on topics or issues you don’t want to hear about or don’t agree with. 
2. Social Media: Follow parenting bloggers and influencers on platforms like Instagram and YouTube. Their insights can be incredibly helpful.

 3. Parenting Apps: There are apps designed to connect parents. You can find local events, playdates, and even childcare resources. There is even an app for meeting local parents; kinda like tinder but for parents. 

  4. Virtual Meetups: With video calling, you can host virtual meetups with friends or family members who might not be nearby.

Nurturing Your Village

1.Be Open: Don't hesitate to open up about your challenges and triumphs. Your vulnerability can encourage others to do the same. When I started sharing about really difficult things, I was surprised at how many other parents had gone through something similar. 

2. Offer Help: It's a two-way street. Offer support to fellow parents whenever you can—it's the foundation of a strong village. Also, sometimes you might have to read between the lines, when we are struggling we don’t often reach out-you might have to offer a few times before your friend says yes. 

3. Attend Events: Join parenting workshops, webinars, and conferences. These events are great for expanding your village and learning new things.

Maintain Connections: Both in-person and online, make an effort to stay in touch. Relationships need nurturing, even in the digital age.

In a world that's becoming increasingly connected, building a parenting village is more accessible than ever. Whether you're leaning on friends, family, or fellow parents you've met online, your village is there to support you every step of the way. So, let's foster these connections, share the journey, and make parenthood an adventure we embrace together. And now that we’ve met on the cyberweb, I hope you consider me part of your village. 

Book time to chat with me to see if I can help you on building your village or any other parenting topics. 

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